Being a picky eater isn’t just stubbornness, it’s a full-time job. I’ve learned a few tricks over the years that actually make mealtime a little less dramatic:

 1. Sneak it in – I’ve started blending spinach, ugu, and carrots into stews and sauces. You wouldn’t believe how many bites of amala or rice go down when the greens are disguised in tomato stew.

 2. Let them choose – I take them along to the market and let them pick one new vegetable or fruit for the week. Suddenly, that same child who refused spinach now wants to try it because they picked it.

 3. Small portions – Overloading a plate is a mistake. I give tiny, manageable amounts, and when they finish, we celebrate. Positive reinforcement works better than threats.

 4. Mix textures and flavors – Some days they want crunchy, some days soft. I rotate between jollof rice, moi moi, and pounded yam with different soups. Variety keeps curiosity alive.

 5. Eat together – I make it a point to sit with them and eat the same thing. Children notice and mimic. If they see me enjoying ugba salad or fish pepper soup, they’re more willing to try.

It’s still a daily battle. Sometimes, the rice comes back untouched, sometimes it disappears like magic. But patience, creativity, and involving my child in choices have made meals less of a battlefield and more of a learning moment.

For parents in Nigeria struggling with picky eaters, it’s normal. You’ll survive, and your child might even end up loving ogbono soup… eventually.