Self-sabotage happens when your actions work against the very things you desire. You want love, peace, success, or a healthy relationship, but fear, insecurity, or past experiences cause you to push those things away.

Here are a few signs of self-sabotage in relationships:

• Constantly overthinking your partner’s intentions.

• Pushing people away before they can hurt you.

• Believing you are not worthy of genuine love.

• Starting unnecessary arguments because you fear being abandoned.

• Refusing to communicate your feelings and expecting your partner to “just know.”

• Comparing your relationship to others and never feeling satisfied.

The truth is, you can’t build a healthy relationship while fighting battles your partner didn’t create.

Healing begins when you become aware of your patterns. Learn to trust again, communicate honestly, and remember that not everyone is responsible for the pain someone else caused.

Don’t let fear destroy what love is trying to build.

Sometimes, the relationship you need to save first is the one you have with yourself.