In Nigeria's current situation, it's quite understandable that many people might be dealing with PTSD or other mental health challenges. To truly love others, it's important to first understand yourself—know your triggers, what makes you happy, and who or what makes you feel loved. Remember, you can't pour from an empty cup. While it's often said that we can't love if we're emotionally unavailable, it's also true that genuine love shows when we're self-aware.
Let me share a story: I was seeing someone, and during that relationship, I often felt drained whenever they said 'I love you.' Eventually, I moved on. I realized my partner's support for my goals was lacking, and perhaps they just enjoyed saying 'I love you' because it felt good—sometimes, love is more about the words than the actions. Later, I found someone new, but hearing "I love you' still triggered doubts in me. However, when they showed love in my language, I felt safe and appreciated.
This is a common experience. We must understand that people love in different ways, shaped by their life experiences. That’s why choosing the right person is so important—it helps you understand why you might clash or connect.
Remember, people love differently—enough said! Many relationships struggle because we simply don't understand this.
Everyone loves uniquely, but the goal is the same—finding harmony. Think of it like dealing with mosquitoes: some people use hand, insecticides, or coils, but the result is the room free of mosquitoes.
Once you understand yourself and your triggers, the next step is to get to know the other person deeply. Decide if you want to love them in the long run. This involves understanding the patterns you can live with and the ones you can't—there's a perfect match for everyone; you just need to find it. Some people don't mind physical appearance, while others see it as very important.
Many people experience love and heartbreak many times, but with the recent Valentine’s Day, I truly hope we get it right the first time. Stay tuned for more articles where we explore how to love better.
Let me share a story: I was seeing someone, and during that relationship, I often felt drained whenever they said 'I love you.' Eventually, I moved on. I realized my partner's support for my goals was lacking, and perhaps they just enjoyed saying 'I love you' because it felt good—sometimes, love is more about the words than the actions. Later, I found someone new, but hearing "I love you' still triggered doubts in me. However, when they showed love in my language, I felt safe and appreciated.
This is a common experience. We must understand that people love in different ways, shaped by their life experiences. That’s why choosing the right person is so important—it helps you understand why you might clash or connect.
Remember, people love differently—enough said! Many relationships struggle because we simply don't understand this.
Everyone loves uniquely, but the goal is the same—finding harmony. Think of it like dealing with mosquitoes: some people use hand, insecticides, or coils, but the result is the room free of mosquitoes.
Once you understand yourself and your triggers, the next step is to get to know the other person deeply. Decide if you want to love them in the long run. This involves understanding the patterns you can live with and the ones you can't—there's a perfect match for everyone; you just need to find it. Some people don't mind physical appearance, while others see it as very important.
Many people experience love and heartbreak many times, but with the recent Valentine’s Day, I truly hope we get it right the first time. Stay tuned for more articles where we explore how to love better.