I've discussed how to love by understanding yourself and your partner, but we can't truly say our relationship is successful until we've been in it for quite some time and have minimised conflict as much as possible.
Avoiding conflict doesn't necessarily mean walking away when your partner is lashing out to stop yourself from getting angry, nor does it mean bottling up your feelings because you're not ready to talk.
In a relationship, avoiding conflict involves recognising that you see the world in your own unique way, and your partner does theirs as well.
In avoiding conflict, it’s important to understand the difference between perception and perspective. Perception is simply how you view or interpret the world around you, while perspective means recognising that everyone around you, including your partner, views the world differently from how you do.
People are influenced by their family and environment; for example, if someone has lived their life not needing much because they always had everything they wanted, you can't expect them to understand how half the country manages. Whether they have plenty or not, they may be used to spending lavishly. In such cases, how can you expect your partner to grasp that they can't always get what they want?
Yesterday, someone shared that when he learned the reason for his parents’ separation, he felt the reason was not enough to cause a quarrel or years of separation. I believe that the best way to avoid conflict entirely in a relationship is to understand perception and perspective.
When an argument is about to arise, instead of walking out or raising your voice, listen and ask, "Why do you think this is best?" Then explain why you think yours is, and aim for a compromise. This approach can prevent much conflict and lead to a more fulfilling relationship.
Next, we will discuss the importance of compromise in a relationship.
Avoiding conflict doesn't necessarily mean walking away when your partner is lashing out to stop yourself from getting angry, nor does it mean bottling up your feelings because you're not ready to talk.
In a relationship, avoiding conflict involves recognising that you see the world in your own unique way, and your partner does theirs as well.
In avoiding conflict, it’s important to understand the difference between perception and perspective. Perception is simply how you view or interpret the world around you, while perspective means recognising that everyone around you, including your partner, views the world differently from how you do.
People are influenced by their family and environment; for example, if someone has lived their life not needing much because they always had everything they wanted, you can't expect them to understand how half the country manages. Whether they have plenty or not, they may be used to spending lavishly. In such cases, how can you expect your partner to grasp that they can't always get what they want?
Yesterday, someone shared that when he learned the reason for his parents’ separation, he felt the reason was not enough to cause a quarrel or years of separation. I believe that the best way to avoid conflict entirely in a relationship is to understand perception and perspective.
When an argument is about to arise, instead of walking out or raising your voice, listen and ask, "Why do you think this is best?" Then explain why you think yours is, and aim for a compromise. This approach can prevent much conflict and lead to a more fulfilling relationship.
Next, we will discuss the importance of compromise in a relationship.
